1. Disney had it Wrong.
There is a reason why princess films end with "And they lived happily ever after…" I consider those six words to be extremely deceptive. Beauty and the Beast never showed Belle setting off the fire alarm two out of three meals. I didn't hear about Prince Eric's heavy sighs about not having the Big 10 Network available. Maybe we should start making movies about what happens after the wedding because that would be far more entertaining.
2. Kiss Gouda Goodbye.
I have to admit that my mindset when it comes to groceries has done a 180. I can't just buy gourmet cheeses or the name brand cereals. Say hello to the bottom shelf and the Publix buy one, get one. If you're like most newlyweds, finances can be quite a struggle. Each grocery trip, I know Jake and I sacrifice what we may want for the other. For example, one week I may forego the mozzarella cheese so Jake can get a case of pop and vice versa.
3. Choose Love
I sincerely believe that love is a choice. I knew before we got married that we loved each other. However, having not lived together and having been in a long distance relationship, I didn't realize what loving someone forever really entailed. I know there have been times when I have been spiteful and my husband has had to choose to love me because I was not loving towards him. I would best describe marriage as a rollercoaster; there are ups, downs, and everything in between. At the end of the day we can choose to get off the roller roller coaster when we have our downs or we can choose to love each other and hold on tight and enjoy the ride.
Out of the two of us, I am most definitely the high strung one. When I get frustrated with my husband for something, he will often come in with his dress socks on and skip like a deer across our tiny living room. I immediately burst into a laughter of tears. Having a bag of tricks to make the other laugh is essential to a hilarious marriage.
Jake and I found that we were spending time together, but not really being present because we were so plugged into social media, our phones, or the tv. Almost every other night now you can find us turning off the chaos and just cuddling with each other on the couch, talking about our day or future.
6. The Dinner Table
We almost always try to make it a priority to eat dinner at the kitchen table together so that we can have conversation instead of eating and watching television.
I don't think there's anything more attractive than your husband saying "hey, I thought of you and prayed for you today." Praying together or asking your partner how you can pray for them today makes you be honest with one another about your joys and struggles and makes one another feel appreciated.
When you've been together as long as we have, it can feel like you know everything about each other. FALSE. There's always more to learn.
If you're deciding between the King and the Queen bed, get the King. Don't get me wrong, we love eachother other, but we both sleep in the position of starfish. We like our space. So, once we hit the lotto-this queen bed will be going into the guest room and will be replaced.
10. Have a Date
When I say "have a date" I don't necessarily mean go out to dinner. Our dates over the past six months have included spending $3 in a photo booth, making dinner together, taking a drive, and playing scrabble. Sounds exciting right? Well, when you don't have a lot- you learn to appreciate each other more through the simple things.
Okay, fine there are 11. Just admit that you were wrong. Say you're sorry even if you think it was more of the other person's fault. I'm much more stubborn than Jake so this one is still taking some learning for me.
A Little South